A couple of weeks ago I did something that I never thought that I would be able to do. I sat down early in the morning and recorded a video without any makeup. I did this for one sole purpose, to show my audience how I am okay with not being perfect.  For years I have been wanting to record a video sharing my journey with acne. I have what you would consider acne with hyperpigmentation, which sums up to acne that results in blemishes.

I have lived with this for years it is a part of my everyday. I’ve always wanted to share this side of my life with my audience. Other aspiring models and actresses should know that if you have dreams you don’t have to worry about being perfect.  I mean when I started modeling I was still walking into agencies with acne and blemishes, they didn’t disappear. I didn’t let that stop me from pushing forward. The day came and I realized that trying to look, act and talk like everyone else wasn’t real.

Today,  I want to share 3 reasons why I’m okay with not being perfect.

1) PERFECT IS BORING. PERIOD.

Every day we have the idea of ‘perfect’ shoved right in our faces. I know that you see the perfect advertisements, the perfect photos and we start to think that is how we must be. The perfect hair, the perfect teeth, the perfect skin, the perfect body…  but oh my gosh! That takes so much energy and time. There are some who spend more time ‘trying’ to be perfect versus just being who they really are. The honest truth is that after a while of trying to be perfect you get tired,  and you won’t be your true self.  

I realized that because I’ve done it for years.  Trying to be perfect and at the end of the day… that shit was for the birds. Real talk. One day I woke up and realized that I am my best self when I am being who I truly am.   I am sure there are others out there that feel like me and that you are a more interesting person just as you are versus trying to be perfect. So the way I see it, perfect is boring.

There are some who spend more time ‘trying’ to be perfect versus just being who they really are.

2) I WANT TO CONNECT WITH PEOPLE.

I want to connect with people, with my audience. When I decided to start sharing photography posing and on-camera confidence tips I knew that I wanted to share things that could help others. The fact is everything that I create and share is specifically created for you, my audience. Creating content that helps my audience is what I want to do.    Connecting with my audience on a deeper level to you know that “hey I’m human too, I’m not perfect. I have had to go through adversities, struggles and hard times too.  I’ve had bad days but then I’ve also had some really good days.” This is what makes it real and I’m all about keeping it real because that is the only way we can make it through the hard times.

I want to be able to connect with my audience on a deeper level to let them know that “hey I’m human too, I’m not perfect. I have had to go through adversities, struggles and hard times too.  I’ve had bad days but then I’ve also had some really good days.”

 Because we realize that there is someone else who has been through what we have and they survived it, that is what inspires us. Now if I’m busy trying to be perfect then I’m going to either hold that information back, I’m not going to share my struggles with you because I want everyone to think that I’ve got everything going on. That’s not how I help someone that is out there struggling or someone that wants to learn how to pose better, no I don’t want that. I want to be of service, I want to be somebody that you can reach out to and ask for help and I can give you some type of help and to inspire you. That is what it’s all about.

The content I create is for everyone that comes in contact with me.

3) I CREATED MY OWN VERSION OF PERFECT.

Just like success and happiness, you have control of it.  I took back the control  over my mindset and said, ‘This is my version of perfect because this is who I am.’  This doesn’t take away the fact that I still have things I can work on to become a better person. Self-responsibility doesn’t fade away, but it becomes more clear on what I should focus on.    I can continue to grow as a person but I  take control of my life, my happiness and say…

“you know what, this is good right here this is my version of what’s perfect to me not what someone else says but what I say.”

So right now everything is perfect and I think you should do the same if we took more control back and stop trying to dictate and allow others to tell us what perfectly is and what perfect isn’t we will be so much happier and satisfied with our lives. We will appreciate where we are going and we can focus on what we need to do and how we can make our mark in the world. Instead of wasting time trying to be perfect like everyone else, which is clearly boring,  just be your own version of perfect because you have everything that you need and your worthy of just being yourself.

So there you have it, these are my three reasons why I’m absolutely okay with not being perfect.

I want to know what you think about the idea of not being perfect, tell me in the comments.

As always, Thank you for taking the time to read this post today, I appreciate you.

With love and admiration,

DeAna Fierce

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